High, I’m Sears, and at 16 years old I came out, and as a friend always said, there wasn’t enough room for me and my shoes in my closet! So yes, this is my second glorious mullet, it’s just pink this time!
In March 2000, I went paralyzed on my entire left side and after many tests, I found out that I have MS. Fast forward 14 years, almost to the month, I was diagnosed with stage 2 IDC Breast Cancer. I was in an MS drug study for three years before that and it carried a side effect of skin cancer so there’s a 90% chance that’s how I got my breast cancer. There is no breast cancer history in my family or in my genetic testing. Immediately after diagnosis, they took me into a room where I met my nurse navigator or “boobie babysitter” as I so lovingly called her. I said I have two questions; has it spread, and am I gonna die? They said they didn’t think it had spread and I wasn’t going to die. So I asked for a piece of paper and a pen and I wrote down all my 5k’s; my trip to Vegas, the mini-marathon, gay pride month, and our 40th birthday trip to Mexico and said here’s my schedule work around it! When I was told I had to undergo chemo, a lumpectomy, and radiation I said absolutely not, there’s no way I was going to do radiation! My mom had colon cancer, and the effects of the radiation hurt her way more than the cancer itself. So my amazing doctor said well we will have to remove it then, and I said well you’re taking both because I’m not going to be lopsided. I went and checked out the implants and decided that putting a foreign object in my body probably wasn’t the safest so I went flat.
Never did I imagine how much my life would change after that day and for the better. Since then I’ve become a comedian and got the opportunity to open for Fortune Feimster! Aside from being a comedian I’m also an actor. I’ve acted in the Dinner Detective and have been seen in Patient Justice, Holy Shit Man, and an episode of Baskets to name a few. I also started my own vodcast called The Gays Of Our Lives and we even had Saff from Tiger King and Margret Cho on as guests. I’m a 5x published author in Urban Dictionary and have been featured as a cartoon character in the nationally published Jumble Puzzle. I’ve officiated many weddings as I’m an ordained minister, I'm a poker player, a CrossFitter, a cannabis activist, and I even have my own CBD line, and a Flat activist. Check out my website if you want to learn more about me!
Last October I was in Colorado and I was heading to the first-ever Flat Out Love meetup which was immediately after in Atlanta. While on the Grand Mesa, the largest flat-topped mountain I called my friend and fellow flattie Bobbie Mathews with an idea to have the largest Flatties meetup in the world on the largest flat-topped mountain in the world. As usual, she thought I was nuts but agreed to help me try! Then NY flattie Meg Krause asked if she could help, so The Flatmigos were formed. To be honest, I’m not sure how I got such amazing help, and we have FUN!
We had 69 members in Flat Out Love on November 7th, 2021 and because of an interactive map where you can find about other Flatties near you, we are at around 2,300 today!! Of this, we have around 120 paid to go to Flat Out on Flat Top in Colorado for community, understanding, and healing. This event is coming together better than I could have ever imagined. The weekend is going to be packed with things that members can participate in just for purchasing a Flat Pass. Activities include The Grace Project, International Flat Day Dinner, and a Flashion Show, which is a show that will showcase different designers, one of them being AnaOno. In addition, there will also be a silent disco, a dance walk with Melly, a Flat Out Self-Love day and I will also be recording my one-person show as well!
This event is proving to be more than I ever dreamed of and continues to grow daily! I’m beside myself at all of the Flat Out Love we’ve helped create! So if you’re a Flattie, single or double, previvor or survivor come on over to the Flat Out Love on Facebook, mark yourself on the map and find others near you, but then make sure you get your Flat Pass and join us for Flat Out On Flat Top. There’s nothing like a Flat, heart-to-heart hug!!
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- Sears
