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Why Wear a Bra At All?

April 30, 2018 2 Comments

Why Wear a Bra At All?

We all know what training bras are right? The little, flimsy bralettes worn by little girls who haven’t quite developed a bust yet. It’s considered a rite of passage for a girl to don the garment when her mother feels she’s going from “little girl” to “young lady.” She doesn't need a bra, but wears it anyway.

 

Why Wear a Bra If You Don't Need to?

Flat And Fabulous Bralette

It’s pretty simple. They don’t need to wear bras, but they want to. It might make them feel more mature and grown up. Or maybe they just feel cute having a ruffled or striped bralette in their favorite colors under their shirts. There’s really no reason to do it. But they do it anyway. Popularized in the 1950s, training bras were recommended by medical professionals who claimed the loose bralettes provided support for budding breasts. This was later disproven, considering there is so little breast tissue, support is unnecessary. Nevertheless, training bras continued to be produced and passed along from mother to pre-teen daughter even today. So the question remains: why? Why wear little bras if you don’t need to? It can smooth out the chest under a shirt, and conceal and protect the nipples, but that’s about it. Well, it’s really just in their heads.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Strange World of Bra Shopping

Chances are these girls are not picking out their bras by themselves. They go out with their mothers, aunts, older sisters, in an estrogen-fueled gaggle. These women, familiar with the world of bra shopping, invite their little lady to a seat at the table. These girls grow up, become used to buying and wearing bras, and that’s that.

Underwire Free bra for Reconstruction

Fast forward to adulthood and diagnoses. Many bras of various sizes and a double mastectomy later, and it’s right back to square one. Walking up and down aisles, full of uncertainty. As a pre-teen, you weren’t alone bra shopping. You turned to your mother or other important women in your life. So who is it you turn to as an adult? Hopefully some of the same women who were there for you as a child, but with a few new faces. Your Sisters in Scars. A community of women who know the doubts and concerns you face because they faced the same ones themselves.

 

Why Wear a Bra at All?

Again, you don’t need one, so why wear one? Same reason: you want to. You like the feeling of the fabric, having something pretty under your tops, or just the knowledge that it’s there. Whatever the reason, you have one, and that’s enough. You want to wear a bra and you deserve ones that suit you, just as any other woman. Your bra should be gentle over your scars and smooth out your chest under whatever you’re wearing. Not to mention beautiful and sexy for you and anyone else who gets the pleasure of seeing it on you. You deserve to be comfortable, you deserve to feel beautiful, and you deserve the feeling of taking your bra off after a long day.

 Bra for Flat and Fabulous

It's a changing body that feels different from before, leaving you feeling confused and unsure of what to do with it. The short answer is anything; do whatever you want. Cover up your chest with a sports bra, stuff the cups, flaunt as little or as much as you have. Do what makes you the happiest. You don’t need to wear a bra, no one has to really. But if you want one, then you should have options to satisfy you and make you feel your best.
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Revised 6/15/18: Text and title were changed.

 

 





2 Responses

Dana Donofree
Dana Donofree

June 18, 2018

Thank you for the feedback Diane. It was not my intent to offend any woman who rocks it flat and fabulous. I did not mean to make light of a body post-mastectomy and trivialize it to the level of a girl picking out a bra before her breasts develop. The blog was meant to draw parallels to two points in a woman’s life in which her body (particularly the bust) is changing and leaves her feeling uncomfortable and uncertain of herself. At both times, it is clear she does not need a bra, but does anyway because she enjoys it, or because she feels pressured by others to do so.

But I do absolutely see your points, and very much appreciate you sharing your open and honest opinion with us, so that way we can make tweaks and changes to clear the intention of my experience and point of view in the utmost loving way possible.

Can’t do it without your support! So thank you,
XO
Dana

Diane
Diane

April 30, 2018

It has been 25 years since my bilateral mastectomy when I was 34. I manage an oncology retail store in a hospital. My volunteer had hers 30 yeas ago when she was 36.

I read this out loud to her, as the introduction about feeling like a “pre-teen” felt horribly uncomfortable to me. She and I discussed why we felt this way and that some would be offended by the notion that it was similar to a “pre-breast” body. It almost diminishes the reality of the amputation of the breasts.

I understand the premise and wanting to promote a product to those who have chosen to do no reconstruction or wear prosthetics, but there is really no comparison to the two things. Prior to growing breast you look like every other young person on top, both boys and girls, after mastectomy you are left disfigured with scars, pads of fat under your arms and more often than not, a remaining breast, as many doctors won’t remove a healthy breast.

I would strongly suggest you reconsider the way this new product is being marketed. It is a lovely idea and a lovely product, but I fear you will off-put a majority of your potential customers. Maybe you set up some focus groups for recent and long-term survivors to get some additional feedback.

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